WOW, this guy was a friend?

   As I get older I find that I have less people in my life that are guest stars.  Let me explain.  I have a very close friend that looked at life like a TV show.  You have main characters that are always there (family) then there are reoccurring characters (close friends & co-workers) and then there are guest stars that appear from time to time then go away. Sometimes they will come back into your life after years of being gone and then vanish again. Every year I cut down on the guest stars in my life.  There is so little time to share that you should concentrate on the main characters and the reoccurring characters.  When you are younger life is full of guest stars, you just have the time to do things with everyone in your life regardless of how close you may be.  Why am I bringing this up?  I had a very e-mail sent to me today by someone whom I thought was a reoccurring character but instead turned out to be the evil antagonist of my story. 

  I moved out to Santa Clarita about three years ago so that my son would have safe area with a good school system to grow up in.  I really didn’t know too many people out here and found many of them were much more conservative then me. We were invited to a birthday party where I met Mr. X.  He liked football and was liberal like me so we hit up a conversation and seemed to get along.  He was a little bit abrasive, but I can look past things like that if you are a good person.  After time our kids grew close and played together often.  Mr. X and I would hang out at his home or by my pool and drink beers and talk music.  Every so often he would turn into an ass and lash out at me for no reason.  I would most often just walk away from it, because I knew his wife and the others in the group would tell him he was being an asshole and after 3 – 4 days he would call to say he was sorry.  Now that I’m writing this down I feel like an ass, I should have gave up on trying to have a relationship with someone that was soooo much work.  He is the kind of guy that thinks the world revolves around him and everyone is out to get him.

   I few weeks ago we had a big falling out over something stupid, fantasy football.  It was stupid and shouldn’t have been a big deal. I tried to talk to him like an adult and explain that my friends are really important to me and if you have an issue it should be talked about in the open so you don’t sit and stew in it.  He obviously didn’t agree and kept saying that this was going to destroy our friendship.  I asked about 3 times why he kept saying that and he had nothing to say. The phone call ended and after speaking with my wife we decided it was probably for the best if Mr X and I went our separate ways in life.  She said it just wasn’t worth all this work to be someones friend.  I felt bad because the guy is on his 3rd marriage (which he is completely unhappy in) and doesn’t have any other close friends. I know that should have been a red flag.

   The Monday after the blow up my wife and I had tickets to go see Springstein and the seats were next to MR. X  and his wife.  I didn’t go and my wife was going but was held up at work due to the trailer for “Golden Compass” she was working on. The tickets never got used. There went 224 dollars. The next day I got an e-mail from him saying I missed a great show. I didn’t reply because I wasn’t going to do the “let’s not talk about what happened”  and pretend all is well until it happens again dance.  Been there and done that too many times.  A couple of days after that Mr. X’s wife called my wife to ask her if her husband had destroyed another friendship and was it going to hurt her relationship with them?  My wife said no and that they could still get together with the kids in the park .

  Now comes last Saturday.  Mr. X’s daughter is turning 2 and he is throwing a party.  I wasn’t going to go but my wife and son were.  Before we got their invitation I made plans to go to another friends home at 5pm so they could give my son his birthday present since they missed the party in September.  Their party was at 3pm so my wife and son were going to go over there for about 1 ½ hours to hang out and make sure his daughter got her present.  As 3 year olds are, my son went down for a late nap and didn’t wake up in time for him to make the party and still get to my friends home for dinner.  My wife decided to go over to the party for 45 minutes to drop of the gift and hang out a little before leaving for our second function.  She told me to stay with my son and get him dressed when he finally wakes up.  No big deal right?  Well I got this e-mail from Mr. X today.  I will copy it and paste it exactly as I got it.  He has a big drinking problem so I think he may have been a bit hammered.

invited you into this league and you fucked it up.  If you can't laugh at yourself than all you do is laugh at people you think you're better than. Why yo had to fuck my child out of seeing your child only makes me want to write you all off.  You had a party for your son in the late afternoon and I brought my kids and tried to help you out with ice and media.  In turn you used your son to make my daughter feel bad.  Shame on you for fucking with my daughter and I hope it's come back to you ten-fold.  You can be mad at me for being human and I can be mad at you for being a spoiled little brat, but my kids don't need you to fuck them over.  If you tried to prove a point, you did, that you'll even use your own son to fuck over who you think fucked you.  I hope you're happy that you my child was sad that Dorian wasn't here.  All the bull shit that went through us has no business hurting my girls.  I want revenge and I want now!

   Wow, I had no idea what to say to this guy? I never said my son or wife coudln't go.  The fact is I'm marired to a woman that wouldn't let me do that if I wanted to.    I just sent him back a reply that simply said “please don’t e-mail me anymore”.  My wife is concerned and so am I.  They have a key to our home and toady we had to take him off the list of people that have the ok to pick my son up from daycare.  WTF is with people? I know this is a huge written block, but I just needed to get it down on paper and off my chest.

Thanks for listening, hope I didn’t bore ya.

The Doctor is out.