Nightmare on the X's Street

Ok blogs are more personal than forums,right? Ok, well heres some personal crap that reflects my easygoing, softhearted foolish demeanor.......your welcome turn back cuz I dont know how BIG this thing might get! lol

If you continue on you will probably want to slide your golf cleets on and shoe me in the sack(several times). This blog is a small recap of the last 24 hours events(and then some) that I can vent (cuz its my blog) and probably look back on several times down da road.

Things just hit me driving back from my X's after attempting to repair the frozen pipes at her house. Well when your teenage son (stepson but like my own) leaves the garage open overnite the water softner pipes tend to freeze.

Thats what I assumed so headed out there with some $38 pipe wrap heater stuff and a small electric heater to unthaw as I worked on it. Ya it worked and showed there is a split shutoff as itstarted to unthaw, so we unburied the meter and shut the water off.

I recommended a plumber to be called for several reasons: 1) its an inconvenience for me to drive another 70mi round trip. 2) Its plasticpipe with brass shutoffs and copper blended in,all with frozen water in them( and I dont know what the hell I'm doin) 3) when we were dating but broken up I replaced a throttle cable on her vehicle and it quitrunning that weekend, she called me to come tow her cuz I screwed it up! (drove 30 mi there, outa gas) So if it leaked a drop or anything, guess what - ya my fault.

And of course she doesnt have the money for a plumber and she is going to contact the Bishop at the Church to see if they can help (but of course she would like me to help pay).

Well this is where I backup.......6 weeks ago she told me she was done with dating for at least a year, focusing on the Family and finishing her real estate liscense (working on it for 3 yrs) all she has to do is study and take the test.-She can do awesome at this type work,I know it! Ok yesterday she tells me she getting married on Feb. 4th-OUCH! Ok been together for 10 years, divorced since May and this is her 3rd serious relationship (that I know of) and she's getting married........OUCH-OUCH!

Wow I really feel good about myself! It will be a good thing though, when I left (not my choice) everything was current financially. I let her have all the stuff she wanted and walked away.

She overestimated my income, asked for alimony and I agreed to all this plus I have been paying monthly for: 1) water softner(ironic I know) $46 2)life insurance $35 3) auto ins. for her and stepson $200 (17 yr olds are expensive) 4) plus $542 ea. month that is to help with child care and health ins. Besides all this there is usually something that comes up that I help with.

 One month I sold a valve seat cutter setup, did some side work and gave her $700 cuza some financial woes. Hmmm.....next weekend she rondevoued with an old classmate in Vegas for some good times(male of course), I have several examples-not quite that extreme though. Since the divorce she let the health ins. lapse, let the home get 4 months behind and go into default (step before forclosure) and the child care get $1150 behind.

 GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!! Gave the lady $200 yesterday towards it, now the X is likek well you can put the alimony towards that since you dont have to pay that once I'm married. So since I made a goodwill gesture financially and even though I already pay to help in this area........she wants me to keep on,eh?

 Well her new flame has some dough it seems, he came through last Tues with money to save the home from the clenching jaws of foreclosure, he's going to hire her for one of his businesses(she can work from home, No day care!) and he has a nice home that the Family will move to (teens arent real thrilled) and not have to worry about the water or power being shut off again.(oh ya that happened too) So I'm trying to put things into a positive perspective, not real happy about so many events here

. The last 3 months have just beat me down. Its sucks when you give everything youve got,and your Family still struggles/suffers-it sucks. This will be better, and I will have about $900 more per month! WOOT! WOOT!

That will be nice, and the kids will be much closer to where I live. These are the things I'm holding onto, and the fact I have equity in the home that was allowed for at the divorce and will be reconfirmed in the realty quit claim crappola. It will be enough to start a small school fund for the girls and take care of some stuff.

Oh Yeah! The events over the last months just keep turnin in my head but........enough said.

 

Thanks for those that made it this far, I appreciate you listening to my whining.

Thank you to this site and a new hobby that has filled my time and channeled my energies.

Thanks 2o2p west and NoD- you people are awesome!

THANKS

RiveR

 

 

Posted by OldManRiver48 @ 12:49 am EDT | Permalink | 14 Comments

Define Normal

How do we define normal? Certainly there are dictionary/textbook answers but thats not really the point.

What I guess I'm searching for is: am I normal? I'm certainly an average regular guy no suprises really (aka dull).

But I guess I'm reflecting on recent behavior, is it normal to check emails and post notifications 3-4 times a day?

I check in the morning, at lunch which I usually come home for (I live 1 block from work) when I get home and before I turn in.

Plus the 2-6 hours a day I usually spend gaming, seems a bit much.

A lot I'm sure is from the recent distance from my family (aka divorce) I miss them and my little girls terribly.

Yeah your right , lonely. Maybe a bit depressed I'm sure, there are certainly symptoms. But not that big a part I feel.

What I do feel is a constant desire to play Halo with my online friends, I'm addicted. In the off time to surf the site and not much else.

I do get to see my girls and most of the family each week and thats outside the gaming part, but sometimes I wonder if that is even my # 1 priority

I even get down on myself about the gaming part as much as I enjoy it it makes me wish that it could be that niche you've been looking for.

That one thing that you are really going to be a natural at, Not! After all I put into it for the last 5 months I'm painfully average at best, Deee Nieeed!

Oh well I cant imagine not being involved in some type of gaming since my involvement the last few months, some great times with great folks.

Yes even darth_chibius j/k. So if you made it this far through my ramblings, Thanks-find some caffiene saturated product to help restimulate ya.

And for now Average Joe out. ( aka River)

Posted by OldManRiver48 @ 8:56 pm EDT | Permalink | 17 Comments

Timmies Do Ya Miss Um?

Just an observation from today, uhmmm ok so were having some great games w/clan members and friends, alright. Nothing unusual, then someones singing and talking about penises, ya know I guess there are some penis songs but I dont recall wanting to listen too them. Nor did we listen to the 13 year old and the 17 year old for very long. WOW how quikly the whole lobby changes because of 1 person, we did have a new site member bring his 2 eleven year old boys to game with us, great. However they didnt have communicators but I suspect they would have been fine with parental control nearby and it worked out great Daddio bringing in his boys filled some needed spots-Thanks. Nothing anyone hasnt deal with as part of matchmaking, just makes me embrace 2o2p site, my clan, and my Awesome friends list that much tighter!

Posted by OldManRiver48 @ 10:26 pm EDT | Permalink | 8 Comments